In response to a perspective e by Caitlin Grey: http://www.kqed.org/a/perspectives/R201103310735
Caitlin Grey complained that it is not easy being an environmentalist.
She wanted to convince her high school classmates to change their behaviors but found them resistant. She went to college expecting to find like minded people who would come together to make change. Instead, she found it a place where mostly those beliefs are being tested.
Caitlin sounds like she is feeling a little stuck. But I think she could be off to a great start, because she is noticing the right things:
She’s noticing her own feelings, and noticing she doesn’t like to be challenged or tested. She’s noticing that she wanted to go some place where there are like minded individuals that she can be around so she didn’t have to deal with having her beliefs challenged so strongly.
But she is also noticing that change doesn’t come from being around like minded individuals — it is the like minded individuals that we we don’t want to change. It is the individuals who do not already share our beliefs we want to change.
She is noticing that the people she wants to change, resist arguments. They push back. Because, just like Caitlin, they don’t like to have their beliefs challenged or tested.
WHAT IS THE WORLD TRYING TO TELL US THAT WE ARE IGNORING?
It looks like Caitlin is has acquired all the key experience of human nature and problem of creating change in individuals behavior that she needs to make a great discovery that could dramatically increaser her effectiveness. Her earlier view, that merely sharing with information about the environment to her classmates would cause them to eagerly transform their behavior had the virtue of being a very simple model of change to understand. However, the feedback from the world is telling her that her view needs to be a bit more nuanced, if she is to become a successful agent of change.
How will she have to modify her model of influence to become an effective agent for chaining people’s behavior in a way that has a global environmental impact?
TO CHANGE THE BEHAVIOR, YOU HAVE TO CHANGE THE DESIRES THAT POWER THOSE BEHAVIORS
We’ve all hear “Think global, act local”. But the basis for meaningful change works at an even more micro level than that. Societal change happens on a mind by mind and conversation by conversation basis. And an important distinction you’ll need to constantly keep clear on is the difference between things that are in the real world — like people’s behaviors and actions, and things that only exist in minds, like intent and desire, and things that only exist in language like judgements, values, and meaning
For instance, Caitlin started her perspective by saying it is not easy being an environmentalist. I think that statement is also a bit over simplified, and a bit of nuance could add a lot of clarity as to where action and transformation comes from. What I would say is, that it really is easy to be an environmentalist, and even easy to be an advocate; what is hard is to be an activist. Here’s why:
WHAT IS IN A WORD?
Why do I say it is easy to be an environmentalist? Because to be an “environmentalist”, you don’t need to be a member of an organization, or own a T-shirt proclaiming it. It isn’t a degree awarded by an authority, and existing in the real world like a diploma on a wall. It is a label you award yourself or others, or that you don’t apply to them. It only exists in the realm of words, not in the real world. It is not an objective physical quality in the world and no environmentalist meter exists that any person can point at some other people’s behavior and get the same reading on the meter every time. The only thing you need to do to be an environmentalist is to declare to your self that you are one. That’s why being an environmentalist really is easy. You justify this label to yourself any time you give a passing thought to the consequences of some of the choices you make on your environment
All value judgement labels, like “environmentalist”, “pro-family”, “good”, “bad”, “right”, “wrong” just exist in language, and indirectly in minds. The behaviors that really do exist in the real world are measurable and recordable, but they are just the behaviors that they are. Not good or bad or pro-environment in and of themselves. It takes a mind to assign such a label. We can agree or disagree about what label to use or what those behaviors mean (as meanings, like judgements only exist in minds, not the real world). But no evidence can determine the meaning, only a mind can make that judgement.
We can tell that “environmentalist” is a subjective value word, not an objective description because we can disagree about who it applies to. You might require evidence of more such thoughts or deeper thoughts or more visible behaviors to assign the environmentalist label to someone else than I might. But we can label ourselves how we please. While Caitlin might disagree about the appropriateness of such self-labeling I’m guessing that a lot of Caitlin’s fellow students that teased Caitlin for being a “tree hugger” really consider themselves environmentalists, even if Caitlin judges that from their actions they are not. And like Caitlin, they probably don’t like someone else telling them they aren’t what they declare themselves to be. Some of the anger that comes up for us in these cases when people call about their subjective values as if they were objective and then try to force other people to accept their hidden values in this way. And it doesn’t work because it elevates someone else’s opinion over my opinion, and that’s a belief I am free to reject.
THE NATURE OF ADVOCACY
Today, it is also easy to be an advocate, someone who expresses their opinion. It is getting increasingly easier and cheaper to advocate a position to the entire world. It used to be harder and more expensive and much more local. Today, you don’t need an expensive printing press or TV station, not even a taller soap box to stand on, nor a louder megaphone. All you need is a Facebook or Twitter account.
You can find objective physical measures of the reach of an advocate. Column inches devoted to that opinion in newspapers, minutes of sound bites on the evening news, number of twitter posts, emails sent, the size of the paychecks paid to pundits advocating those views on talk radio. We can independently measure these things and we’ll come to agreement as to what those numbers are even, if we disagree about the value of the positions being advocated.
Mere advocacy — telling others that their views are wrong and they need to change their behaviors and beliefs — is as easy as it is ineffective.
But activists are not satisfied with increasing the number of their words in the real world. Activists want people to actually change their behavior. And that requires a change in an intent or desire by the person whose behavior we want to change. And desires and intent, as you will recall, exist in minds, not in the real world. So advocacy is not enough to create change, it is merely a way to transmit a meaning from one mind to another. But if that other mind resists it, change doesn’t happen, ad Caitlin has been noticing.
Caitlin notes how easily her peers challenged her with teasing or rude comments when she challenged them to be more environmentally concerned. She is also noticing that their push back doesn’t convince her that their wasteful ways are right and her belief in environmentalism is wrong, it actually strengthens her resolve to resist them or convert them.
Lastly, Caitlin is noticing that this kind of advocacy that ignores the existing beliefs and feelings of either side just creates uncomfortable conversations, hurt feelings, confrontations, a renewed commitment to resist the ideas of the other side even more, and demonizing and dehumanizing those who disagree — and results in no change or movement in either side’s behavior.
In short, Caitlin is learning all the ways that Advocacy, without compassion, doesn’t work.
What is hard is being a successful agent of change, an activist who changes the world, through creating the situations where people willingly change their own minds and desires, so that those changed desires will in turn change their behaviors out of self interest.
This is the first part of the realization that will enable Caitlin, and other young people like her, to become a successful agent of change. And it makes her ready for the next epiphany, how activism differs from advocacy.
MOVING OUR ATTENTION FROM OUR IDEALOGICAL DIFFERENCES TO OUR BASIC COMMON HUMANITY
As Caitlin shifts her attention from noticing how different she is from these other people in terms of their beliefs, and refocusses that attention on how similar she is in terms of her feelings about how others interact with her, she can develop compassion and empathy. As Caitlin becomes skillful in developing this skill, she can extend this compassion and empathy even to those who disagree most strongly with her about beliefs that she holds very dear. She will be able to do so, by recognizing that her common feelings mean that those other people probably hold some different beliefs just as dearly and are finding it hard to have them challenged as she is
IN THE ABSENCE OF COMPASSION AND CONNECTEDNESS — GRIDLOCK AND FRUSTRATION
California is a great place to learn about what happens in a diverse society when this kind of idealogical advocacy enters the political sphere. You wind up with what we see in the California legislature: Gridlock. As soon as you give in to dehumanizing the other side, you lose any power to influence the other side. You destroy the possibility of coming together, and finding solutions that are better and workable for all. It is these situations that Voltaire had in mind when he said “the perfect is the enemy of the good.
THE HARD PART: TO CHANGE MY MIND, YOU MUST FIRST SEE THE WORLD FROM MY VIEWPOINT
This is the second art of the realization that will enable Caitlin to become a successful agent of change: that to change another person’s mind you have to first stand in their shoes and look through their view, and experience what they feel is important. And you have to compassionately and empathetically want them to come away from your interaction transformed — not by giving up beliefs that you feel passionate about, but by creating a positive change in the world you wanted by creating acceptable compromises that moves everyone a little closer to the world that each individually desires. To be successful at this level it is not enough to protect the environment outside us, it requires dedication to protecting the environment within every heart, mind and soul as well
Caitlin will experience this huge transformation in her power and effectiveness as an activist when she transforms her listening to the push back, that she experiences as resistance today. She’ll achieve new power in transformations when she listens to that feedback as an opportunity for a win win instead. Here’s an example.
CHANGING OUR LISTENING
When Caitlin advocated creating a bunch of paper pin wheels and placing them all over campuses nation wide to draw attention to green energy to be followed by shipping them to Washington, some students said it would lead to a huge waste of paper, and jet fuel. Caitlin described this response as resistance
But a great activist, listening from a point of view of compassion and empathy and looking, and looking for opportunities for connection and mutual benefit (win wins) might have heard that push back differently: as an opening for a dialog that might enable both parties to get their desires met.
For instance, people who complain about the wasted paper, aren’t necessarily rejecting green energy, they are merely saying that for them, wasted paper is a bigger problem. Let’s say we agree are one of the activists in Caitlin group. We aren’t advocating wasting paper, but we are just trying to make a point about Green Energy which right now seems like a more important point to us. We don’t want to listen to their feedback because we feel like that would be backing off from something we are committed to. But they are in the same boat. They don’t want to give up on their point about not wasting paper and jet fuel. We each have a personal truth that is important to us to have validated, and the way we want that to happen is for the other side to admit that right now, our truth trumps theirs. And neither of us are willing to agree to that.
We could agree to disagree and walk away frustrated with the other side’s pigheadedness at not realizing that Green Energy is good for everyone. And they can shake their heads at us and mumble about how blind we are to the problems of waste paper and how it is cause of wasted energy as well!
COALITION BUILDING: ERASING US VS. THEM
But what if both agree to support each other in meeting our objectives and commit to not being satisfied with any solutions we generate until we have satisfied everyone’s desires. We could erase the division between them and us, and create a coalition to which we are all committed to which is dedicated to simultaneously meeting everyone’s desires. This might require us to be flexible and change the way we plan to achieve our goals, but we’ll have a lot more support behind the resulting solutions.
What would this look like?
We could highlight green energy opportunities as well as the problem of wasted paper. By showing openness to helping others get their desires met they agree to help us satisfy our desires. Let’s say that we agree with them that wasting paper and jet fuel is bad, but ask that they agree with us that not noticing green power opportunities is also bad. Now let’s brainstorm how to create an event that would showcase both views simultaneously.
We can now concede that dedicating new paper to this event might be wasteful, but then brainstorm a new way to showcase both of our desires to promotes green energy AND draws attention to paper waste. For instance, they might propose an event to pick up waste paper from roadsides instead — which showcases their mission, but not ours.
CREATING WIN WINS FROM OUR ALTERED LISTENING TO EACH OTHERS POINTS.
But what if we brainstormed and came up with making the pin wheels from waste paper students from the litter they found will cleaning up local roadsides. Not only would that not waste any new paper, it would draw attention to how much waste paper there already is clogging up our environment which could be put to a 2nd use. And you both would have contributed to making your local environment beautiful for many people who were not even involved in the conversation
As long as their point about waste paper is seen as resistance, this opportunity to create an even more powerful message with more people promoting it is lost. Only by first accepting their viewpoint is the joint solution possible.
Similarly, instead of experiencing the complains that shipping the paper to Washington might waste jet fuel as resistance, we could embrace that too and find a different way to get our messages across. We could post YouTube videos showing each campus’ activists collecting the pinwheels at the end of the event and — instead of shipping them to Washington — taking them to their local paper recycling plant to teach their community how easy it is. We could Twitter the URL of videos, along with the email for your state and local representatives for that campus — and note how much Jet fuel you saved by video taping this and solving the problem locally, instead of sending the problem and the trash to Washington. Send the twitter posts to local news highlighting how local students are making their local environment beautiful AND by doing this over YouTube contributing to creating change world wide.
PUSH BACK IS AN OPPORTUNITY FOR MORE INCLUSION
When we experience push back, there is an opportunity there for us to create an greater impact, by listening to the unmet desires of the person pushing back. There is an opportunity to reach out to them and find out how to join forces to meet the desires of both. Much of the great social changes of the late 70′s came about from this sort of coalition building, where activists for very different platforms: anti-war, civil rights, abortion, gay freedom who seemingly were competing for limited air time on national TV, worked together to create win-wins for everyone.
TWO POSSIBILITIES IMPLICIT IN THE NEW SOCIAL MEDIA
The new social media create an amazing opportunity for connecting people in greater numbers and at greater distances than ever before and for uniting them in action. But the medium is agnostic to which future it will be used to create.
WIN-LOSE: THE OPPORTUNITY FOR MORE POLARIZATION
The new social media can unite millions of formerly unconnected and disenfranchised like minded individuals at great distances. Once connected to others who share their beliefs they may now feel even more emboldened to oppose others that they feel disagree with them. All these advocates can simultaneously talk past each other and still be heard by their growing constituencies, in a way that doesn’t happen in a square with competing bullhorns drowning out the other speakers. This could create an even more powerful mechanism for ever more polarization, increased political gridlock, demonization and disrespect for alternative views, leading to more hate speech, war and violence. As a nation, we last experienced a prolonged period of this sort during the race riots and Vietnam anti-war protests of the 1960s. This is the rhetoric of “you are either with us, or against us”
WIN-IWN: THE OPPORTUNITY FOR MORE COMPASSION, CONNECTEDNESS AND COALITION BUILDING
Alternatively, the new social media can be an amazing platform for coalition building too, bringing together diverse people testing and challenging each other — but listened to in a compassionate way that enables a coming together where win-win solutions can arise. This is the rhetoric of inclusion and the big tent
WHICH FUTURE WILL WE CHOOSE?
The future we get as a nation and as a world, will largely depend on what Caitlin and her contemporaries choose to do with these new social media technologies. Governor Brown and the California Legislature needs the people who can catalyze coalitions to break through the logjams that are limiting our ability to respond flexibly to our current economic problems.
Will Caitlin and the youth of California today make the leap from idealism to constructive engagement that the youth of my generation made 40 years ago? I hope they will!
SIDEBAR:
WHAT CAN THE 60′s AND 70′s TELL US ABOUT CREATING A MORE COMPASSIONATE AND INCLUSIVE FUTURE? A PERSONAL JOURNEY
I’ve often wondered how the turbulent 60′s gave way to the great coalition building and social change of the 70′s. I have a theory born of my personal experience, and I’ll share it in hopes that someone like Caitlin can see how to reproduce the situations which gave birth to those coalitions of the 70′s
The 60′s were a period of polarization. Black against white, big business vs. labor, farmers vs. banks, establishment and anti-establishment, young people vs. the silent majority, capitalists vs. communists and socialists. There was violence. Race Riots, lynchings, burning of neighborhoods…
As the Vietnam war escalated, more and more people were touched by the tragic loss of life and limb of their loved ones, and members of their communities, and anti-war sentiment grew, momentarily uniting member sof very different groups across economic class, race, gender and other lines that had divided us.
ANTI-WAR PROTESTS AS A TRAINING GROUND FOR NEW ACTIVISTS
For many of us who were Caitlin’s age at the time, we believed this war was different from the wars our fathers and fore-fathers had fought in. We weren’t necessarily against all war, we could justify going to war with Germany to fight Nazi takeover of Europe or against Japan for attacking Pearl Harbor. But we judged the war in Vietnam as “unjust”, and there was a lot of upset against the draft system. This drew many of us into the anti-war movement where we met a group of powerful and skilled activists that many of us had not met the like of before.
PEOPLE WITH AN INCLUSIVE COMPASSIONATE VIEW: THE QUAKERS
These strikingly different people were the Quakers. Had I studied anti-war protests that existed in previous wars, perhaps I might have known more about them, for Quakers have long been among the most visible conscientious objectors, and at the center of anti-war protests and humanitarian aid to the populations of war torn areas. So it isn’t surprising that they would be at the center of the anti-war movement in the 1960s and 1970s. But many of my contemporaries were blissfully unaware of them and their beliefs and practices until we joined the anti-war movement that Quakers were already a part of.
FROM EQUALITY OF EVERY INDIVIDUAL TO EQUALITY OF EVERY INDIVIDUAL’S CONVICTIONS
There’s a reason that Quakers have been anti-war activists in every era, and it is based in a fundamental belief and deep respect not only for the absolute sanctity and equality of every individual, but also for the sanctity of each individuals’ strongly held beliefs or convictions. This doctrinal belief of sanctity makes no distinction between economical classes, race, gender, nationality and because it applies also to the beliefs of those people, so no ideology justifies a war in their view. It also has pervasive affects on their practices, notably their choice to govern themselves through Consensus (where any single person objecting can block adoption of proposal) rather than majority vote, and the rejection of any clergy or hierarchy of authority. That was a level of equality I had never contemplated.
While most of us had always held a belief in the equality and sanctity of all me, the equality and sanctity of ever individual’s beliefs and convictions was a new concept for a lot of us. The Quaker emphasis on consensus was annoying to those of us in a hurry to cause action and create results. But we lacked the consensus building skills they had developed for years, and couldn’t see how this would ever result in change that we were impatient and impetuous to start.
Despite our initial resistance to giving up the power of the majority to a small minority or even one individual, some of us were dramatically transformed by the experience of being around these people who skillfully and tirelessly they worked to build consensus. We learned they were incredibly successful they were at building coalitions of unlikely groups of people.
CREATING COMMITMENT NOT ACCEPTANCE
Some of those initially strange beliefs rubbed of on some of us to some degree. and some picked up pieces of those coalition building practices we originally found strange. Despite our initial negative judgements that these practices can be time consuming, they had a remarkable virtue of working and persisting. In contrast the faster methods that we had initially believe would bring quicker results, such as bullying people into agreeing with us through words and ostracism, often created only limited acceptance not commitment — and invariably fell apart quickly.
THE DIASPORA OF ANTI-WAR ACTIVISTS
When the war was over, many of us still had a passion for social change, and we took these new skills and strange beliefs with us as we fought for other forms of social change. And some amazing coalitions of very strange bed fellows did result in the rest of the 1970s and these coalitions made newly possible changes for even minority groups that could not have happened before.
When I look back, some forty years later, I marvel at the impact that this small group of unpretentious people and their strange beliefs and practices had on a whole generation of social activists in all kinds of areas. They indirectly transformed a culture experiencing a lot of social violence stemming from stagnant entrenched positions into potent forces for peaceful social transformations of enormous magnitude. Given the small proportion of the movement which they represent, the influence they had is remarkable.
While a tiny group of small colleges and some humanitarian organizations still rooted in these Quaker beliefs, values and practices still survive, these Quaker beliefs and practices seem to have disappeared back into the same obscurity for the mainstream population today that they occupied for my contemporaries before the Vietnam protests began.
WHICH GROUP OF PEOPLE, AND WHAT EVENT COULD COALESCE A NEW GENERATION TO REDISCOVER THESE TECHNIQUES?
I wonder if the 70s would have been a very different period, if there had not been an anti-war movement and if those of us who grew up at that time had not learned so much indirectly from our work with them. I wonder which seed groups could transform the world’s thinking today. And I wonder what event, if any, will draw mainstream people into the spheres of influence of these remarkable activists and transformers of the world and spread these techniques to a new generation, the way Vietnam protests did for my generation.
While I have talked about the Quakers, because of my own personal experience discovering them, I’m aware that they don’t have a monopoly on these beliefs and practices. There are many other non-religious organizations founded in the Bay area which teach many of the skills of transforming listening and coalition building, including the Human Awareness Institute, Landmark Education, Bay Area NonViolent Communication and Lafayette Morehouse. These organizations or the seminars and training they provide, can all trace their original roots to that same period of time: the late 1960s and early 1970s. And with the exception of BaNVC, which is the local chapter of the Marshall Rosenberg’s Center for NonViolent Communication, the initial organizations offering this training are all native to the Bay Area, so there is clearly a fertile climate for developing such thinking here.
With a perspective, I am Scott McGregor
Scott McGregor is a silicon valley entrepreneur and start-up coach who is currently at work creating a mobile commerce business based around greeting win-wins for consumers and merchants.
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